Practical information about the
mechanism and logistics of divorce, as well as personal stories. The page
is currently rather US-centric; if you can provide information about
divorce in other countries, or have any other contributions, please
send email to
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- Frequently Asked Questions -- An extensive
discussion of divorce in the United States, covering
Annulment, Separation, types of divorce, legal rights, property
division, alimony, child custody and support, and immigration
and marriage laws in India. From kanoonindia.com
of Hindu Marriage Act of 1955.
- A law firm based
India -- has solid information about getting a divorce.
under India's Special Marriage Act from indiainfo.com
and Christian marriages in India from goacom.com
in the Parsi community.
- Divorce laws in the
laws regarding divorce.
laws of the US, from the Cornell Law School web site.
- Divorce Net, a commercial
site which contains the divorce laws for all 50 states of the
US. Includes bulletin boards and a forum for questions.
- A commercial site which
includes articles on family issues in the US
Coping with Divorce Issues
Deciding whether to divorce and then working through the emotional issues of
a divorce (in addition to the legal and financial ones) takes time,
energy, and coping skills. The following section offers some pointers to
helping you and your family get through this time.
are not alone, we are there is a mailing list for divorced women
of Indian origin.
Sassy Pink Peppers is
an upbeat social network, which introduces divorced women to other
divorced women, in their own community and via the internet.
Marriage and Family Therapy
Children and Divorce
- In Oct 2000, Judith Wallerstein published The Unexpected
Legacy of Divorce, which followed a study group of children of
divorced parents for 25 years. She concluded that children of divorce
are hit hardest after they grow up.
Salon article about the book
about the book and authors, including an excerpt.
interesting discussion on Wallerstein's book, as well as Linda Waite and
Maggie Gallagher's The Case for Marriage, in Slate.
cover story on children and divorce
Effects of Divorce on Children. An academic paper by Robert Hughes,
Ohio State University.
- Divorce Matters: A
Child's View. Article by Lesia Oesterreich, a Family Life Extension
Specialist at Iowa State University, discussing what parents can do to
make divorce easier for children. From the National Network for Child Care
- The Effects of
Divorce on Children. Article by Karen DeBord, Ph.D. Child Development
Specialist. From the National Network for
- FAQ on finding a
psychiatrist to help your child cope with divorce, from the
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
children understand divorce by Sara Gable.
- Child Custody Issues, in the FAQ.
- Child Support Issues, in the FAQ.
Emerging Voices : South Asian American Women Redefine
Self, Family and Community, edited by Sangeeta Gupta, 1999. Papers
from a conference held in LA in 95, which include a chapter on
marriage and divorce. [Review by
Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni in India Today] [Article about the
conference on Rediff]
- Incidence of Divorce among Indian Muslims, by MM Siddiqi.
and Muslim women. By S.A.H. Moinuddin, 2000.
- The Impact of Divorce on Men and Women in India and The United
States. Amato, P.R. Journal of Comparative Family Studies, 25, 207
- Divorce in Indian Society: A Sociological Study of Marriage
Disruption and Role Adjustmen. by J.N. Choudhary. Printwell
- Family Law: Law of Marriage and Divorce in India, by Paras
Diwan. Sterling, India, 1983.
- Legal Rights of Hindu Women in Marriage and Divorce, by
Rabia Bhuiyan. 1986. Can be ordered from
Women for Women, 1/2 Sukrabad, Dhaka 1207, BANGLADESH.
- Aapka Banti, by Mannu Bhandari. One of the earliest
books on this theme. Originally in Hindi, translated into English
by Jai Rattan, 1983. The narrator is a child who tells us about his
parents' divorce -- all the tensions, fights that go on, mother's
relationship with another man, and neighbours' comments on his mother.
It centers on divorce effects on a child, but is all about a man
and woman going through divorce as well.
- Ancient Promises, by Jaishree Misra. A
semi-autobiographical story about a woman's journey of escape
from an unpleasant marriage.
- The Bride Wore Red, by Robbie Clipper Sethi. A
collection of short stories, one of which -- 'Grace' -- is about an
American woman married to a Sikh. Grace cannot handle her in-laws'
constant intrusions into her privacy.
- The Fire Sacrifice, by
Susham Bedi. The protagonists' daughter, Atima, goes through
tensions in her marriage and decides to separate.
- The God of Small Things, by Arundhati Roy. Ammu, the twin's
mother, is divorced from their father, and they live on sufferance
in Ammu's family home. See the
page about Roy for parallels with
her life and her mother's, and Divorce in
GOST, a page from Emory U.
- Incantations, by Anjana Appachana. A
collection of short stories, one of which is about an American woman who gets
divorced because she cannot abide by her Indian in-laws' expectations.
- Intimacy, by Hanif Kureishi. A chillingly candid
description of/by a man walking out on his wife and children.
- Love and Longing in Bombay, by Vikram Chandra.
One story is about Sartaj Singh, a Bombay policeman who is going
through a divorce.
- A Matter of Time, by Shashi Deshpande
- Memories of Rain, by Sunetra Gupta. The protagonist
leaves her husband to go back to her native Calcutta.
- My Feudal Lord, by
- A New World, by Amit Chaudhuri. Jayojit Chatterjee,
an Indian economist teaching at a university in the United States, is
the central character.
A year after his (nasty, involving a custody battle) divorce he
returns to Calcutta with his young son,
Vikram (nicknamed Bonny), to visit his parents for a few months...
- Paro, by Namita
Gokhale. The title character has a divorce, and most of the
book is set in Paro's single, post-divorce years.
- Love, Stars and All That, by Kirin
Narayan. This charming book features an Indian woman graduate
student at Berkeley who survives marriage and divorce.
- Sister of my heart, by Chitra Banerjee
Divakaruni. One of the main characters suffers oppression by
- What was Always Hers, by Uma Parameswaran. The title
story is about two women and a divorce.
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- Astitva, directed by Mahesh Manjrekar
Starring: Tabu, Sachin Khedekar, Mohnish Behl, Namrata Shirodkar.
- A Nice Arrangement. Directed by Gurinder Chadha.
Set in the London home of an Indian
family on the morning of their daughter's wedding, A Nice
Arrangement takes a wry look at the most prominent Indian obsession
-- marriage. Meena, the young
bride, changes into her traditional bridal gear with the help of her
divorced friend, Sita. Together, the
women explore why they chose to marry the "perfect" cultural choice
for their parents.
Soda, directed by Nisha Ganatra.
deals with the life of a young girl, whose parents get divorced. Her
Indian, mother is American. The mother has custody of
their two children,
and the father's interaction with his daughter is limited
to a few arranged
meetings, making it a traumatic experience for both. The
film goes on to
show the father and daughter rebuild their relationship.
[The director's own website]
statistics in India. Data gathered from the Indian Census
including the '91 census.
- Divorce Statistics in
America from the Americans for Divorce Reform, a group that is
dedicated to eradicating 'no-fault' divorce and wants to make it harder to
- In Sri Lanka, 0.15 of 1000 marriages end in divorce.
Miami Herald, 1998.
- Divorce on
the rise among IT professionals in India, according to the Times
of India, 23 Dec 2000. (no stats, though).
divorces in Haryana each year, (out of a population of 17
million). According to the Tribune, (12 Dec 2000) this is the highest rate in India.
- Check the United Nations Demographic Yearbook. Also Report on the
World Social Situation.
statistics for the US, and some dubious
Credits: Natasha Oza, Subrata Paul, Susan Chacko
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